An eye for an eye, but forgiveness is better. I am reminded that those before me endured worse treatment with greater patience that I can muster. That to engage with a fool in his anger makes me a fool as well. Part of developing wisdom, I guess. We all have our ways of seeking God, I simply ask that mine be respected, or even better, left alone. I am not harming anyone from wearing the scarf, why does everyone have an opinion about it when they don’t belong in my life in the first place. Live and let live. Peace. Ameen.
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Wow! I am so sorry this happened to you and your friend, but admire your bravery and courage so much. It is very inspiring. It is astonishing to me that this kind of thing can still happen. And to be honest is does scare me.
Big hugs and I hope you are doing well despite this incident. If anybody can make a difference, you can.
BTW – I love your journal format. It is wonderful to see how your thoughts and emotions pour out via writing. (And I really love your wish to be less cranky. Me too!!!)
Salam,
Cali
Salaams! Jazakullah khairun! Really, this was like the first incident in ten years, so I guess I should be so lucky? It does scare me too, but God’s wrath terrifies me more.
Jazakullah khairun for the hugs! And for reading through these patiently
Glad to know the format is appealing! It’s always a bit daring doing something different.
I so appreciate the support. It really helps lift me up. Jazakullah khairun!
Pink.
I am sorry if someone has offended you. I think you are awesome just the way you are. Please do not change yourself for another human being’s likes or dislikes
Awwww… thank you sooo much… your validation is awesome… thank youuuu.. hugssssss
i always speak the truth, lol
I am just going to bed and you came thru email and i read every single word
xx
sheer honest
bravery and courage = you x
i am amazed by you and your beautiful innocence ……………… you remain that
ie- teddy bear and little kid writing
love love love and peace 2 to you
please find me on fb so we can chatt if you want x
please alWAYS STAY whom you are xxxxx
beautiful pink xxxx
love xx
c
Thank you so much. I was worried my words would be too harsh in expressing how easily I hurt. I am becoming tougher, but I am still mushy inside like a baked apple. Thank you so much for reminding me to be brave, courageous! At times, i’m really not sure what the answer is. Thank goodness for teddybears, fountain pens, and good friends
Woo, FaceBook! I tend to post only on the Pink Pearls Wisdom Page, but thank you for the invite 
Hugsssssss
send me the invite for the page or the link ?
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thank goodness for teddy bears and JEM and my little pony and hello kitty and all that xxxxxx
keeps me a kid ! xo love love love xo
C
Greetings!!! Hugss for all your lovely comments filling my inbox.. such love! Link is http://www.facebook.com/PinkPearlsWisdom… wooo!!!
OK _ last comment you will see i could NOT FIND IT
lol and tada – here you are xo
when i get there later xo
wooooooooxxxxxxxxxx
Found it xxxxxx
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo Love xoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxox
SEEING all your sweet comments – yes we will make a Pink shirt xxxxxxx i will glue the letters on for you xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoooooooo
love you xo
me sooooooo tired xxxxx but tomorrow energy will be uppppppppppppppppppp again
alllovecat@yahoo.ca
write me anytime xo
cat
Love your email! Love the Idea of a Pink Shirt! That’s amazing! haha.. Happy Pink Day! I usually can’t stand Valentine’s, but I will rename it as Love Day instead
it’s my tattoo on my writst all love with a little star xxx
lol xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxooxoxoxooxoxoxoxooxoxox love you xo
Good morning xxxxxx
my birthday is the day after valentines day – how funny huh > my mom was gonna call me VALENTINA ………… so Glad she didn’t
Wowweee! Really! HOLY GEEZ! Mine is the day before Valentines! Whaaaaattttt.. This is soooo spooooookkyyyyy!!! Holy geez! I’m in shock! No wonder we are so much alike! Holy camoley! Hugsssss!!! Post Valentines baby! Valentina!
NO way xxxxx yours is the 13th and mine the 15th ? lololololololollololololololololololol
LOL XOXOXOXOXOXOOXXOXOXOOXXOXOXOOXOXOOXOXXOXOOXXOXOOXXOXOXOXO
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people think we are all about water – WATER BEARERS = YES – but air element
i looked for your page on fb – but >>>>>???? there are so many Pink pearls – lololol
Goooooooood morning xxxxxxxxxxx !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what happened to the 14th – DAY RESERVED FOR CUPID
just having my first coffee and YEAH –
so – Aquarians – we are always in the sky xxx right
makes so much sense Pink xxxx
i got a little lost
in the http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taXoz91wfZk meantime xxx have a beautifullllllllllll day xxxxxx
CUPID DE LOCKE – SMASHING PUMPKINS
THE ONLY VERSION I CAN FIND – CUTE VID – BUT I WAS SEARCHING FOR THE ALBUM / REAL ONE XXXXXXX
love xxx
(Not valentina )
Cat xoxoxooxxooxooxooxxooxlool
Sooo amazing right! I was like woweee!!! Such misunderstood creatures we are, but really, we are the trendsetters, way ahead of our time. Age of Aquarius.
Love the song!
I still can’t believe we have sooo much in common!
And thank you for liking my Page! It really means a lot as really, you helped to inspire it’s creation, so you really deserve to the credit too..
Pink Pearlllllll!!!!!
Hahaha.. not valentina.. hahaahah
Good morning
watercolours 
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lol but it’s still interesting – The planets – the stars
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- not valentina saying LOVE xoxoxoxoxooxo
lol xxxxx
Tons of people i love are aquarians – what is with that in the sky kinda hearts -= Cha is an aquarian –
u know the talented French Girl
i think aquarius people understand each other immediately –
not so much into astrology as i was when i was a teen –
allllllll that xxx
http://www.exploreastrology.co.uk/personalitytraitsaquarius.html i used to read and read – on the topic
and it was super fun
i will have to post the PINK PEARL on your page
remember that little image ?
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tons and tons of Love and Gooooood morning xxxxxxxxx
C – NOT VALENTINA
Thank youuu! Woooo,Pink Pearsl! Yes, definitely, thank youuu… Your hope keeps remembrance of better days to come alive within my lantern, thank you soooo much… You are so special, please always remember this no matter how strange life gets…
Hugss!!! haha.. not valentina…
not valentina says u are not “anonymous ” your word and i no like that – NO ONE IS ANONYMOUS ……..
love you Pink xxxxxx
Yoga and some rest xoxoxoxoxoxo
My roomie loves yoga! She’s like a mini you!
The story of those men harassing you got my blood boiling. It is just so wrong and pathetic on so many levels, first of all, to basically pick a fight with a WOMAN (wow, what tough guys, hey?), second to pick THAT fight, do they know absolutely nothing about the reality of global politics and it’s relation to 9/11? Do they even read the news?! (CNN doesn’t count
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I lived in Montreal for a while, and although it was super multicultural there were SO MANY racist and ignorant people (plus the whole French vs English “racism” or whatever the appropriate term is) that it often made me feel physically sick.
Serious props to you for standing your ground! You are such a strong and brave woman and keep rocking the scarf, it’s your right. Also screw flirty gross guys! They piss me off too, lol.
Lots and lots of love!
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Jazakullah khairun soooo much for your kind words. I laughed so hard at your comments coming to my rescue. I still can’t believe I spoke up. I usually just blast my iPod instead so that I can’t hear anything or anyone, anymore. When I go to Toronto, I don’t need to do this. But living in this city, I’m anxious. Always ready for the next fight. It’s very tiring. Today, I dreamed of going back to Toronto, being in a city where I have friends, family, and people who frankly, don’t yet at me for being a terrorist. But I’m here now (for whatever reason I’m learning why). It’s sooooo tough… I wish I wasn’t so angry and hurt all the time. But Allah has His reasons for keeping me here. I just gotta wait to see what on earth it could be. Everyday though, that I get to help someone. That confirms my reasons for being here.
Alhumdulillah..
Thank you for all your support! It really means a lot… Hugsssss..
The whole of you is beautiful dear sister, stay strong and know that God loves you very much! You are blessed with great strength and a wonderful gift to write…keep sharing,keep caring, and know there are many who love you deeply for the lovely spirit you are…never change or give in but keep pusing ahead. Hatred is rampant everywhere in this world but stay the course..for you are blessed. Its not only a headress or scarf, it can be our skin color, our religion and many other reasons but they are small in heart! Trust in God! I am sorry for the dispair that was caused you but know you are loved deeply my sister! God bless!
thank you soo much for the reminder of greatness that is better than any hatred that exists in this world. I should realize too that the venom one spews comes from a place of poison deep within. It’s just so difficult. I mean, I love God. It’s that simple. How I want to express this, as long as I’m not hurting anyone, is up to ourselves. And well, I thought, ironically, that wearing the headscarf was being a good servant to God in removing the displays of beauty that is emphasized in society. It is unfortunate that it has been twisted into a symbol of non-peace when all religions emphasize modest dress, behavior, and manners.
Thank you so much for commenting, it really means a lot. It’s so nice to connect with like minded people who are God fearing and seeking His happiness with us only.
Blessings to you and your family,
Pink.
What a week you have – I will never understand people .. there is place enough for us on earth, doesn’t matter what religion or race we have – things like that happen because people don’t understand, don’t have knowledge enough – so they are scared for anything they don’t understand.
So sorry that you had to … experience a thing like that.
You know, if more people were like you and the amazing writers on WordPress, I truly think this world would be such a different place. Really. My anger is simmered when I remember who wonderfully supportive everyone has been, kind souls like yourself, and I am soothed. Thank you for being that comfort amongst the storms within. I soooo greatly appreciate it. More than you’ll ever know!
Pink.
Hallo, Pink! I am so proud of you! I love the new concept of your blog. So unique, so candid, so sincere, so, so Pink!
I’m in awe of your courage Pink. Your journal is an inspiration and it resonates with honesty. Sharing how you are finding your way in this world is bound to help lots of women who can know that they aren’t alone in there hopes and dreams and fears!
Your writing is such beauty and comfort to my heart. I was like, logging in shyly to see who might be up, and bam! Your words hit me right to the core. Here I am thinking, “who reads this stuff”, and WHAM! Apparently kind hearts like you.
Thank you for listening to my meanderings.
I was like, “wow, I share WAY too much about myself on here”, and I am a bit shocked where this stuff comes from. And thank you for shining a light as I figure my path through this thing called life. I’m soo thankful I have your humor to help guide me through…
Well, I know what you’re feeling because that’s how I used to feel when I was younger and trying to find my way through the wilderness of life. I had to do it by feel and I had a journal and my journal got me through so many things. And my journal and my books (James Allen’s As a Man Thinketh and Rumi and so many other wonderful writers too guided me through.)
Your are doing exactly what you need to be doing with your journaling and putting it online. Just keep going forward (that’s my motto!) and try not to second guess yourself. You are very wise Pink. Just trust your wisdom. I think your journal will help others. I really do. You’re doing great! Just keep going forward!
My eyes got all watery. You’re like this wisdom I always need to hear, like a great guidance counsellor.
I sooo second guess myself. If I really listen closely, I can hear the truth. The world is full of doubt, and I need to be guided by my intuition, which has never failed me, for the most part.
I’m sooo amazed that you journal wrote. Your support and validation really help! Writing in my journal, some honesty shocks me, and hopefully not too many readers. It’s tough putting your heart out there, but it reminds me that I have one. And thank you for ‘doing exactly what you need to be doing w/ your journaling and putting it online’. That really affirms this method of cathartic venting.:D And to keep moving forward. This resonated with me today. Thank youuuuuu…
You are so welcome Pink! I predict great things for you. You are going to get it all figured out. And the fact that you are truly putting your heart into it like you are tells me that you are already very far ahead of the game!! And I got goosebumps reading your comment too. You are so sweet! And I can’t wait to watch you as you keep going forward!!
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Thank you so much! I joined a Grief Recovery Support Group for the next 12 weeks (with myself being the YOUNGEST member. Geez I felt so out of place, plus it’s in a church where the members look at me like, well, I don’t belong). It’s a great book written by John James and Russell Friedman called the “Grief Recovery Handbook”, and it’s a kind and gentle movement through the losses we have left uncompleted in our lives, in terms of the full cycle of emotions associated with it.
I realize now how many relationships I have rebounded from, have not grieved, only to doom the next one. Thus, if we must have things behave differently, we must act with the intention to be positive changers in our lives. It’s not easy, hard work, liters of tears, but in the end I’m hoping it’s worth it. To stop lugging my guilt, self-dislike, and isolation like it’s a comfort blanket.
Thank you for being the cozy in our lives!
Pink.
Oh that’s a wonderful thing you are doing, Pink. I’m sure it will really help set you up for a whole new way of being in the world so that you will attractive those circumstances to yourself that your sweet spirit deserves in this life. I think it’s time for something wonderful to happen — I have a feeling it’s just around the corner.
It’s funny, my birthday is around the corner, my buried grief is surfacing to tears, and all I can think about is how my life isn’t what I had hoped by now at my age. And yet somehow, your belief in me, makes me realize, it’s okay. It’s fine that my life churned out differently, I can still mold it to what I want to perceive it to be within.
Thank you soooo much…
Pink.
Oh I am so truly happy that I could help, Pink. I think it is so valuable and smart of you to work out your grief. It’s unpleasant to relive pain from the past. But once you get it worked out you really will feel renewed and then one day when you’re least expecting it, you’ll suddenly notice that things that upset you before are completely gone. And that you’re happy!
It’s funny how life is. We try so hard to make things happen that we think will make us happy. And when it doesn’t go the way we’ve planned it’s devastating, and yet, I’ve always found that the conditions in my life that have made me the happiest, were the farthest thing from what I thought would make me happy! LOL!! In hindsight I can see that all I needed was patient faith in the future.
Wow. I really needed your wisdom as work has been not going as great at times and I keep questioning why I am working there lately as I feel like my talents are not being recognized. I have been cranky at work lately, and pushing back when me, lowest on the totem pole, have been stepped on. But then I get in trouble or I’m seen as rude in talking back. Sigh. Sometimes I wonder if I have made the right decisions. Moving out here. But thing is, I can’t see my life in any other way either.
But you’re right. Making progress through grief by recovering from the hurt is necessary but not easy. Digging up old buried feelings is like reliving a past I thought I saw clearly, only to find that grieving fully gives me true clarity. How nice.
Just like your doodles 
Oh the workplace is soooo hard! I’ve never been very good in the work place. At least I don’t think I have. I was never appreciated until after I quit and then they always wanted me back. Isn’t that funny? In almost every job I’ve ever had they would replace me with someone who didn’t do as good a job as I did and then they would have to pay them more. HA! Then and only then did they appreciated my contribution. Maybe that happens with a lot of us low totem polers!! It’s so stressful to not feel appreciated. I just realized that. There’s an inner war going on where you tell yourself you’re fine and you can handle it but you are also at the same time harboring a lot of resentment! Sigh . . . Work is just hard! My solution was to find a small quiet office that was extremely tedious and boring, but at least there was no drama!
I’m glad your working through you grief, Pink. It’s so hard but so well worth all the pain for that wonderful clarity!!
Your comments are so timely as I’m dealing with a douche at work this past week whom I have declined returning his interests, hence, like all men, they become hostile and angry with me. This past week he blared at me, and a colleague who heard this stated he was in the wrong. Sigh. This guy lives and works close by and I prefer to keep distance. He’s a nice person but desperate and lonely, thus seeking attention from any female. Why do these types of guys always leer towards me. Eesh… Being on the lowest part of the totem, he felt he had the right to yell at me. So frustrating. Gross. Eww. Esh.
At least I have the gym. Dealing with transit turds. I can use that frustration in working out my anger. Helps!
Looking forward to reading your humorous honesty